Happiness comes from solving problems

To be happy we need something to solve.

Problems never stop; they merely get changed and/or upgraded. Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is "solving." If you're avoiding your problems or feel like you don't have any problems, then you're going to make yourself miserable. if you feel like you have problems that you can't solve, you will likewise make yourself miserable. the secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place.

Happiness is a constant work in progress because solving problems is a constant work in progress--the solutions to today's problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow's problems, and so on. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.

Denial. Some people deny that their problems exist in the first place. and because they deny reality, they must constantly delude or distract themselves from reality. this may make them feel good in the short term, but it leads to a life of insecurity, neuroticism, and emotional repression.

Victim Personality. Some choose to believe that there is nothing they can do to solve their problems, even when they in fact could. Victim seeks to blame others for their problems or blame outside circumstances. This may make them feel better in short term, but it leads to a life of anger, helplessness, and despair.

  People deny and blame others for their problems for the simple reason that it's easy and feels good while solving problems is hard and often feels bad. Many selves help Gurus teach you new forms of denial and pump you up with exercises that feel good in the short term while ignoring the underlying issue. Remember nobody who is actually happy has to stand in front of a mirror and tell himself that he is happy. Emotional burnout is real.